My (internal) Confrontation Waiting to Happen – Again

I’ve had ‘confrontations’ with myself for years now, simply because I know I should be doing things that continuously make myself better.

And by better, I mean refocusing my efforts to live life to the fullest – being a better friend, brother, son, uncle, employee; working out a little more; drinking a little less; traveling more, etc. I’m happy about the experiences I’ve had to date but there’s still this innate desire to do more.

Yet, I am my own worst critic. I always wonder, “Could I be doing something bigger and better to truly make a difference?”  (Some of you know this, but I served in the armed forces and worked in a hospital for quite a while. Defending freedom and saving lives are two professions that set the bar of achieving “something more” pretty high.)

I could argue that I don’t have the discipline to – day after day – make the proper decisions. That would be an excuse because discipline is a learned quality, a function of habit. I could say, simply, that change is hard. Everyone knows this. But, again, an excuse.

  • What would you do to make a difference in the lives of others?
  • How do you achieve your level of discipline?

One time I was told, “Don’t judge your insides by somebody else’s outsides.” This held two meanings for me. Everyone has their own set of problems. As hard as you try, you will never be able to read another person’s mind and the demons they deal with on a daily basis. You should look at your own ‘insides’ and realize that change comes from within.

Maybe it’s time to have another deep confrontation with myself.

Oh, and here’s the inspiration for this post: Seth’s Blog: The confrontation waiting to happen.


Things to Think About in 2010

I decided to go through the 400+ messages my Google Reader has accumulated over the past couple of weeks.  Trudging my way through myriads of information from web analytics to investment insights, I discovered a wonderful post from David Meerman Scott.  David passed on a freely shared e-book written by Seth Godin (whom I also follow via an RSS feed – just haven’t gotten there yet) and contained some amazing insight for the new year.

Seth asked over 70 industry professionals to write a short essay given only one word.  Each page contains that author’s input and, I must say after reading it, was compelled to write this post.  EVERYONE in marketing, pr, communications, ethics and mid- to upper-level management can gain something from the text.  Take some time to flip through this and let me know what you think.  I’m sure you’ll be pleased.

Download the e-book here.

In addition, I was happy to say I actually follow several of Godin’s contributors, and I’ve heard about several others through lectures or web casts.  The composite list can be found on page 3 of the e-book, and I encourage you to look a few of them up.  One person I really enjoy is Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love.  In the book she talks about “slowing down” but I first came across Gilbert through her speech at the TED awards, where she spoke on creativity and genius.  In case you haven’t seen this, take a few minutes to understand her message.  It’s pretty interesting.

TED Talks – Elizabeth Gilbert muses on the impossible things we expect from artists and geniuses — and shares the radical idea that, instead of the rare person “being” a genius, all of us “have” a genius. It’s a funny, personal and surprisingly moving talk

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I can’t believe I’ve had over 11,500 hits over the past couple of years.  I’ve sent over 1,000 tweets.  We live in a ever-growing, digitally connected world but I can’t stress enough the importance of human interaction.  We need to make sure things are done becuase they’re the right things to do, not because it’s “in.”  Just because something has potential for one company, it may not work for you.  The joy you hear in someone’s voice when calling to wish them a simple Happy Birthday can never be replaced by a Facebook post.

Here’s to investing more time in the people and things I love in 2010.  Happy New Year!